Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Last Day

I would ask that the normal readers of this blog please indulge me today. The past week has been unusual and if I haven’t been responsive to your comments or questions I apologize. Last Wednesday, around supper time my momma passed away after battling Alzheimer’s for a number of years. It was appropriate that she died at supper time since my family spent so many hours enjoying each other’s company around momma’s supper table. Her death wasn’t unexpected, but the events that took place this weekend could not have been more surprising. I can honestly say that I have never been thru such a sad event and come away so inspired and challenged. We held a viewing on Saturday night and if it would been anywhere else besides the funeral home, you would thought we were having a party. It was loud with people laughing heartily and at the same time people quietly shedding a tear. I guess to outsiders it would have appeared disrespectful, but in truth nothing could been more respectful. Family and friends came from all over the country to pay their respects to a lady they loved and admired. They told wonderful stories as only true friends can tell and it was heartening to see so many people express gratitude for having known my momma. After the viewing we had an impromptu dinner at a local Mexican restaurant and I’m sure the owners were convinced we were a wedding party. Somewhere along the way we went from mourners to celebrators of a wonderful life.

We held the funeral and graveside service on Sunday afternoon. I lost track of how many people spoke at the funeral, but one thing was clear, momma and daddy (I include both because no one who knew my folks could think of one without thinking of the other) had inspired a lot of people in their lifetime. My cousin Chris from Ga spoke of her legacy, many others spoke of her kindness and cheerfulness in all weathers, and my brother Rick spoke of the courage she had evoked in his life. I had never heard the preacher speak before, but he appeared to be truly moved by the eulogies given and I suspect gave one of his better sermons. I spoke for a few minutes and actually read part of a blog I wrote back in March. Some family and friends have asked for a copy of it and I decided to re-post it and a verse from Roman 8:28 that momma would often remind me of during tough times.

Romans 8:28
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

Everyday she lies trapped in a bed with a body that no longer functions and a mind that is at best sporadically conscious. An old man comes and visits her daily to feed her and ensure she’s being cared for in the respectful manner she deserves. He has loved her for more than fifty-five years now and his devotion to her has never wavered. Most folks would say she would be better off dead, but they do not witness the daily display of character and virtue portrayed by this old man and old woman. They live each day as if it’s the last, not in the grandiose fashion of going skydiving or some grand adventure, but rather they live it as the best human beings they can be right now. They realized long ago that everything and everyone will soon be forgotten and the greatest contribution they can make to the human race was to live a life of moderation, of courage to always do the right thing, of patience to deal with the hand that fate has dealt them, and above all else, service to their fellow human beings. Their reputation, status, careers, and wealth have never been their primary concern. They live each day like a rock unmoved by the crashing waves or calm waters, their character is always the same, above reproach.

So long momma, and thank you for the challenge and inspiration to live everyday as if it were the Last. Little "P"

24 June 09
Wednesday
Warm-up
30 Double unders
30 20 inch box jumps

WOD
Power Clean
5 reps, 4 reps, 3 reps, 2 reps, 1 rep (go for a PR today)

For time:
400 meter run
5 x Deadlift 275lbs men/195lbs women
10 x Burpee (jump, but no push up)

Finish with 10 minutes of stretching.

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

Mike,
Thank you for sharing this! Your story of your mother's pasing reminds me of Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
A Time for Everything
1 There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven:
2 a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot,
3 a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build,
4 a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance,
5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain,
6 a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away,
7 a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak,
8 a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace

May your mother rest in peace. May those she left behind laugh, smile and be comforted in knowing that she is with God.

-Amey

Anonymous said...

Sorry to hear about the sad events, but it sounds like she inspired many and you are carrying on her legacy, by inspiring and challenging all of us. Thanks.

The East Coast Crew

Andrea said...

Mike-
I am sorry to hear about your loss, what you wrote about your mother's outlook on life is truly inspirational; she sounds like an amazing women. Thank you for all you do!
Andrea

Anonymous said...

Mike,

Sorry for your loss, thanks for the inspiring post.

JD

Anonymous said...

Mike,

Sorry for your loss. There is nothing more sacred in this world then the love between a mother and her son. It sounds like your mother was a very unique and caring women. God bless. May she rest by the side of God forever.

Ron

Anonymous said...

Thank you for your post. You and your family are in my prayers. I think it says so much about a one's character when their passing is truly "celebrated" as your mother's was. I can only hope to leave behind half as much. I wish you and your family my thoughts and best wishes as you heal.
linds

Liz said...

Hey Mike,

Im very sorry about your loss, but it looks and sounds like you have a great support cast of family as well as friends.

Mike S

Anonymous said...

Mike I am sorry for your loss.
Katie

Anonymous said...

Thanks everybody for your thoughts and prayers, I've received several emails today regarding this post and your kindness is much appreciated by our family and friends.

I did today's WOD this morning and the effects of 40 hours of driving made the deadlifts feel like 375. I finished it in 15:15.

Thanks again.
MP

Anonymous said...

Hound, that's an awesome time, you guys must have been flying during those 5 400 meter runs:) MP